So it’s pronounced “you-ay”

Hey I’m Yue. And yes Yosemite is my real middle name.

I’m an LA-based dating expert, author and content producer with a focus on:

1) Dating

• Dateable Podcast

• Dating Sociologist/Expert

• New book “How To Be Dateable” available for preorder!

2) Tech

• TECHTHELEAD

• The Gadget Show

My entertainment career has seen many iterations including appearances on networks such as MTV, AMC, Discovery and NBC, dozens of commercials, and TV shows in China and the UK. Through it all, I’ve learned that I truly enjoy creating content and telling a compelling story. That is why in addition to my on-camera career, I also run a production team, and offer media and strategy consulting for several top startups.

Born in Beijing, I moved to East Lansing, MI when I was 8 years old. My Mandarin Chinese? Pretty solid. But my Chinglish is even better. When I moved to the US, my first love was hip hop dancing, which I learned from MTV music videos (I know every move to “If”). Then I became intrigued with the dating culture when I moved to NYC and witnessed the start of online dating. And finally after moving back to Beijing and being exposed to top secret tech prototypes, I developed my passion for technology. After residing in SF for 5 years, I feel very fortunate to be able to foster all three of my passions in an industry that has allowed me to be me! I spend most of my time now in LA where I can be around other creatives and entertainment professionals.

Like a good Asian kid, I hold a double major in Business and Sociology from UC-Berkeley. But like a rebellious Asian kid, I quit my promising consulting and advertising career to pursue the entertainment industry during my quarterlife crisis. I haven’t looked back since and my parents haven’t disowned me yet. Double win.

I am the momager to a rescue dog influencer named Mojo. He’s pretty level-headed. Especially for LA standards.

Dating Expert and

Thought Leader

Following a chance encounter while living in NYC, I became someone’s “dating coach.” Within a year, I found myself starting my own coaching business called Singlefied, which I grew internationally. And eventually…I grew out of it. However, my love for love never faded. How do people meet in the modern world? Is monogamy dead? Why do Americans date several people at once and why do other cultures find this unfathomable? In 2015, I moved to SF and witnessed the most unusual dating scene ever. Hyper-blended gender roles. Microdosing to “feel” something. Dates that became funding pitches. And the ostracization of heteronormative behavior. I needed to capture the stories, and that’s when my friend Julie Krafchick and I started the Dateable Podcast, currently in its 19th season with features in the NY Times, CNN, and NBC News.

Are you a first-time podcaster and want to know how you can get started? Check out my starter kit recommendations.

THE DATEABLE PODCAST

With the advent of technology, the promise of connectedness and accessibility also makes us feel lonelier than ever. My friend Julie and I created this podcast to show that we’re not alone in the dating conundrums that we go through. On each Dateable episode, we feature a real story from a real person of how they’re making dating work (or not). Some stories are juicy, some are insightful, and some will have you screaming, "I had the same thing happen to me!" More importantly, we give takeaways to apply to our own lives, all while laughing along the way. The Dateable Podcast was named one of the top dating podcasts by the NY Times, Huffington Post and BET, and has been featured in Thought Catalog, Bustle, Brit+Co, AskMen, SF Chronicle, and more.

Some of my favorite episodes:

The Decision to Have Kids (or Not) w/ Kate Kennedy

What it Means to be a Man (redefining gender expectations with Mark Greene from The Good Men Project)

How You’re Wired for Relationships w/ Dr. Avigail Lev (take the relationship schemas quiz if you haven’t yet!)

For fun:

The Dickerator App: Join the Dick Revolution

Sponsor-A-Single Promo Video

DATING SOCIOLOGIST IN THE PRESS

Calling anyone a Dating Expert seems amusing to me because it implies that you are really good at dating. The fact is, we’re all trying to figure it out, even the “experts.” That’s why I would consider myself a Dating Sociologist who has a love for sharing her findings! Since I collected all these learnings and experiences from the clients I had as a dating coach, I found it helpful to put it out there for those going through similar situations. I’ve made appearances on CNN, KQED, The May Lee Show, and Amazon Live and have filmed dozens of pilots about modern dating. Dating, on the surface, may seem to be all about the other people you meet, but at its core, dating is about your relationship with yourself.

What would your ex say about you?

Check out Yue and Julie’s new limited series podcast with iHeart Media called Exit Interview! On each episode, we interview a dater and their exes about what went wrong and where they can do better.

My new book is available for preorder now!

Break free from the traps of modern dating and learn how to take control of your love life in this actionable, compassionate guide that will help you find your person and become your most dateable self. Published by Simon Element (Simon & Schuster). Available Jan 2025!

Written by Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu – Creators and hosts of the hit dating podcast Dateable. As active daters turned dating insiders, we've made breaking down the nuances of the ever-evolving dating world, and empowering the people within it, our purpose and passion. Drawing on a decade’s worth of research from speaking to thousands of daters and world-renowned experts, we believe everyone is dateable—it’s just the modern dating norms that keep us from falling in love. We're so excited to bring all our learnings to you in this book. We completely changed the way we date and do relationships  – and know you can too!

I am so proud to finally bring this to the world. I believe it will completely change the way you date, for the better. And even if you’re not dating anymore, it’ll give you a glimpse into what it’s like to date in today’s world. Preorder today!

Lights. Camera. Magic.

When I was a toddler, my parents said I would stand so close to the TV I’d basically be in it. They weren’t wrong. Over a decade later, I’ve navigated through almost every crevice of the entertainment industry. My passion for creating content is both on-screen and off-screen.

on-camera

I started my entertainment career in NYC as an on-air host. I had no experience, no connections, but I had a vision. While working at Rapp Collins as a Strategic Planner, I convinced my co-workers to help me make a demo reel that I sent out to as many agents as possible. Lucky for me, Abrams saw something in my lo-def homemade video. But the rest wasn’t some glamorous ride through the magic of television. The entertainment industry taught me so much about perseverance, tenacity, courage, and humility. My journey hasn’t been about luck, but I’ve been extremely fortunate to be given the opportunities to thrive. Some of the highlights of my career have been:

• appearing in numerous national commercials

• reporting for the NBA and Formula E without much knowledge of either sport

• playing the victim in 14 sexual harassment training videos (that’s got to be a record!)

• witnessing real fake news while reporting for China’s propaganda giant CCTV

• being able to travel the world with both The Gadget Show China and The Gadget Show UK

behind-the-camera

While working in front of the camera, I was intrigued by all the intricacies of what was happening behind the camera. Can you imagine a 2 day shoot, 100-person crew just to film a 60 second commercial? Can you believe so-and-so did not get cast because of a weak handshake? And do you know sometimes it takes 50 takes just to get one good sound bite? Since moving to SF, I’ve tackled the production journey for various Silicon Valley companies. We’ve created marketing content for the likes of Future League, Civic, People.ai, KPIT, Plickers, Superbloom, and OnCue.

In 2018, our team tackled the biggest challenge yet: Cash Show Trivia, a daily live-streaming trivia game show. I became the show’s Executive Producer. In less than 6 months, we were live in 5 countries (US, UK, Germany, France, Japan, and Australia), with at least 2 shows a day in each geo. We helped build studios in the US, Germany, Japan and Australia and while those studios were in progress, we were live-streaming to these countries from our SF studio. Starting from 2am all the way to 9pm, we would have various teams tornado in and out of the studio speaking different languages. In less than 6 months, Cash Show became the 2nd biggest trivia app in the US and the 1st in Europe. The team is still catching up on their beauty sleep.

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